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Find Your Self-Worth Within: The Key to Lasting Happiness and Fulfillment

Self-worth is an intangible feeling that is often difficult to define. Some people refer to it as confidence, others as courage and many call it independence. Ultimately, it comes down to how much we love and value ourselves.

"The most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself." - Diane Von Furstenberg

The dangers of basing self-worth on external measures

When we were younger, we often based our self-worth on things like grades and the number of friends we had. As we get older, we may continue to compare ourselves to others in terms of wages, houses, cars, and even the attractiveness of our partners. But this is a dangerous trap to fall into, as it leads to feelings of frustration and unhappiness.

Even when we accomplish our goals, we may still find ourselves comparing ourselves to others who seem to be doing better. This can happen in our relationships as well. For example, a man who has been married for years may start to feel old and seek the attention of a younger woman, leading to infidelity or a lack of interest in life. In this case, their self-worth is tied to another person or an idealized version of how they think their life should be.

But seeking validation and fulfillment from external sources is ultimately fruitless. Marriages can end in divorce, finances can suffer, and we may end up feeling empty and regretful for actions that were driven by a need to boost our self-worth. The problem is that when our self-worth is linked to external achievements and appearances, we are on an emotional rollercoaster.

The importance of self-love and self-respect

The key to true happiness is to know and love ourselves regardless of our circumstances. Millionaires who lose everything in a financial crisis may feel like they have lost their worth, but they are still the same person. Our self-worth is not determined by our material possessions or social status. It is a constant that does not change, even when our circumstances do.

It is also important to remember that seeking constant validation from our partners is not sustainable. They have their own needs and may need support and motivation as well. It is only by loving and respecting ourselves that we can truly feel fulfilled and be able to support and motivate others in turn.

So take some time to reflect on your achievements and goals, appreciate how far you have come, and work on loving the person you see in the mirror. When you love and value yourself, you will be better equipped to weather any storms that come your way and have stronger, healthier relationships as a result.

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